Are you struggling … maybe feeling stressed … as if you’re  a victim of circumstances … need a way to turn things around for the better? … determining your priorities may help.

So many people suffer from subconscious sabotage patterns. Often it may be repetitive. Over and over again, it’s like they fail to learn from their mistakes. Have you noticed, they just keep stumbling over the same old dysfunctional behaviours?

We may ask, why do people sometimes behave in opposition to their own best interests. It’s like, for some people, so much of the time they’re going against their own natural grain. Often, it may be that they have lacked clarity, Maybe they haven’t truly identified what’s most important to them. This is one reason why so many people have difficulty in making choices in life.

Our values are simply what we consider to be most dear to us.  It’s natural that we value some things more-so than others. It’s so important to clearly identify what’s most important to us. Identifying our values is an important process in counselling and life-coaching.

To help determine our values, we may ask ourself some questions. As we’re doing something that we believe in, that we love, that’s high in our values, we’re perusing challenges that inspire  us. From a ‘stress’ perspective, we may say that instead of distress, we’re creating eustress. Good challenges can help to make us stronger.

On the other hand, become aware of those challenges that you may be trying to avoid. These don’t typically inspire us, as they aren’t high on our hierarchy of values. If we’re not well aligned to our values, then we’re likely to be struggling  more-so than thriving.

An assessment, of our values can be very useful if we are struggling to make significate life-changing  decisions. Greater clarity of values can help direct our choices. Here’s a simple process that may help to identify what your values s are.

Simply ask, what’s important to you in life. Consider what you like the most, maybe what brings you the most satisfaction, a sense of accomplishment.  Write down everything that comes to your mind! Also consider what you could not be without.

Next, ask what does that give you. Write down, as an example, does this give me as sense of ‘adventure’, maybe ‘learning’, ‘fun’, greater ‘love’ , more ‘security’ and so on. This is your value.

Then, narrow the list down, maybe to your top, most important 10 values. You may do this by deleting the ones that’s not really so important and retaining only those that are the most important to you.

As the last part of this challenging process, you now take the step to prioritise this list from your top value to the least value.

You may find that this ‘Prioritisation Process’ will help you to create some clarity, of the priorities in your life. For private counselling & life coaching ask for Ron Bass at ‘Empowering Wellness’ on 07 5535 9833